The Week-End

Oh Dear! Why cant I chew it?

Yum yum yum

Emm Yummy

Can this be eaten?

Trying to Stand up without any Support

With the giggling toy
With animal-like pink balloon

Trying hard to stand on his feet

Oppsss Flashes lights too Bright
Sooo Thirsty

In the Stroller

Catch Me If I Fall

When Can I Walk and Stand tall?

Let See What Will Happen if I let go off my hands

Last Saturday we went to the mall. Ikram sat in his stroller. He seems so facinated with the view, looks like someone whom never been out for ages. He looked around him with so much amusement. Everything to him so amazing and so new. He had one kind of expression. Tried to adjust the seat of the stroller to a lay back position but he make a fuss to show that he doesnt likes it, so I adjusted it back to a sitting position. As usual he attracted so many attention. He is so adorable. We then, went to Toy R Us and bought another few of new toys. A giggling toy. You shake it it will giggle and make a sound.

On Sunday with Tok Wan, her sister, Tok Na, we went to a distance relative's house at the Felda area. Its fruits season and we were so lucky but not Ikram as he cant eat fruits yet. Its king of fruit and queen of fruits season as well as rambutan. We bought home a few of the durian, gave by the relative. It was a good visit though. I always like to visit kampung people as they are always rich with courtesies and warmness. Not only we were warmly welcomed but they were always expect us to come back whenever we are free. With stomach full of lunch and fritters and our car boot full with durian and the smell ohh don't mention, we drove back home with laziness. Luckily the journey to home not that far otherwise I wont let anyone bring in any smelly fruits.

Forgot to mention about the measles which I thought Ikram were having. Luckily, before we went to the Felda, I brought Ikram to see the Dr. He had a bit of flu and cough as well. The Q didnt take that long as we had make an appointment earlier. We had actually went to the clinic last Saturday but the Q was too long and we dont have time to wait and the good part was that the clinic assistant advised us to make an appointment the following day which we did and it turned out great. Good news was that, it was not measles but normal rashes.But the rashes doesnt effect him much though he had slight fever. As for the flu and cough, Dr had given the medicine and I gave him once and the sign shown very positive. No more coughing and running nose. I dont really like to give him much of medicine, since the sign shows positive, Ive stop him from taking the 2nd dose.

Yesterday was a public holoday for J city, and we went to Nek Na daughters house. She invited us to have lunch at hers. So went were Ikram and myself, Ab, Tok Wan, Kak Sam and Pak Bakar (Nek Na's husband). Few hours later followed by Kak Midah and Hubby and Uda. We had a great lunch. I ate a lot and Ikram was at hi sbest manners. He infact slept almost whole day, guess to tired. At home he was so active playing with balloons which we bought earlier. He was so attracted and fascinated with the baloons. He even showed his skills of climbing and at dusk he slept peacefully till 1.00am.

At 1.00am I suddenly heard something and opened my eyes only to see him busy playing and climbing the bed head (iron). Tried to put him back to sleep to no avail but he didnt cry. Guess almost at 2am he went back to sleep and woke up again for another round of milk at almost 5am.

Over the whole week end, Tok Wan was so impressed with Ikram's progress. He showed sign of climbing chairs. He even managed to pulled his leg up to his knee lenght to climb a chair. What an active boy!!.He even managed to pulled a chair and he was lucky the chair didnt hit his head when it fell. The best part was, he thought he could stand without support, whenever he tried to stand up or climb on any standing object, he will try to let go off his hands , as if he's able to stand on his own without support. At Tok Wan's I just put him in his walker to avoid him from climbing and messing around. It was a busy long week end for us after all.

Baju Melayu

Yassin recitation
Sleepy

Crying-too hot and sleepy

Yesterday was the first time he wore Baju Melayu. It's Firdaus's and he no longer can wear it, so Kak Sam gave it to me for Ikram to wear. It's been quite a while she gave it to us but it does not fit for Ikram yet.Too big.So yesterday at Tok Wan's house I put on him and it fit him perfectly. There were group of Yassin recitation at Tok Wan's.It's male group.Abut 30 of them. Ikram with that pink colur Baju Melayu. As for Firdaus it fit him nicely because he is fair but not Ikram. Anyway it's his first ever wore Baju Melayu.I've bought a piece of green colour fabric a couple of weeks ago for his Baju Melayu for the upcoming Hari Raya (our theme colour for this year Raya).However I will buy him another ready made Baju Melayu when the time comes.It's too early though as he will become bigger and afraid it wont fit him properly. Anyway, will avoid pink or any kind of it.It doesnt suit him at all. He was so sleepy and so hot.The weather was so humid, we were just sat outside while the group performing their recitation and solat Asar. He then slept on my shoulder.Was so sleepy, it's his bed time. Two days ago, I saw his face and around the neck something like rashes/measle.But he does not has any fever sympthom. But his body sometimes a bit warmish. Today it became more apparent, guess he's having measles. Firdaus also has it.Guess Ikram has it from Firdaus because we spent our week end together at Tok Wan's. So it must be it. I know that this disease contagious, I hope its not that serious, anyway we have to be extra careful.

Wednesday

Mak Anjang-Kak Isna's Mom-this is more like it, the story behind the event-by amateur
The neighbour busy helping out at the kitchen few hours before the event took place

The hantaran-close up by Pro

The Cake-hantaran-by pro

This is like for magazine. What can we tell?-by pro

The Hantaran

Jam packed - no air to breath

The nieces and nephew with Ajai

Ikram with Tok Wan-by amateur

Ikram with Mak Ngah- Umi's sister by amateur

Only today we can see the engagement photos.Hmm like 'hampeh'. I like the amateur style.More closer to the event. The 'pro' photos were good for modelling agencies or maybe suitable only for wedding magazine. It doesnt have the 'love' touch in it. It doesnt shows the real or the story behind the event. Like most says, photos tells thousands stories or tells real story but the pro photos was not.It was just a good shot with bright and clear spot but the rest nothing.If we were to take part in the photo taking competetion yes indeed i agreed it was good but what most important here is to tell the story behind the event for those whom unable to attend. No satisfactory seeing in the photos.

Pak Long House

Last friday the 19th, we went to Pak Long house with Tok Wan. They had Yassin group to recite at their house. This is normal for the muslim community especially in the Housing Estate here but it is also depends on the family whether or not they joint the group community.As for Mak, she also has the same activity so as Tok Wan. As for the Rejab is comming, the group will become more active then.

So we went. I was so hungry because we went straight from office after fetching Tok Wan. Thought could have something light first before the invitee but hmmm. However, I managed to gobbled few curry puff and kueh. Ikram was happy when Pak Long carry him around the house. Again due to the season, the weather was not so good. It was so hot and can see Ikram sweating all over.

Pak Long's wife had porridge and roti jala and few kueh plus manggostean for the guest. I gave Ikram a bit of the porridge and he likes it.We went home to Tok Wans a bit late.At 11pm we reached home and we were all tired and rest to sleep.

The next day, I preheated the porridge that Tok Wan brought from Pak Long, gave to Ikram three times as breakfast, lunch and dinner. He ate a lot and poor thing was that he passed motion 3 times that day and I pity him. So on Sunday, I didnt dare to give him anything. just gave him a bit of cereal twice a day as his normal routine, just a bit to avoid him to pass more motion.

The Engagement

Last Saturday 13th June we were so busy with Ajai's engagement. So many people came especially from her fiance's side. We were wondering whether this is a wedding or engagement. Mak said, Alhamdulillah this means rezeki. I said yes it is rezeki for other occasion not for engagement.Normal tradition, during engagement people will not come as many of this, the most from the man side will be 10, the most, but this was crazy. We were infact so hot and mad because her fiance's family came late not half an hour but more than one hour. So bad in time management and the weather was not so good indeeed.It was so hot and humid. Many of Mak's friends came just because of Mak and they need to left early due to other wedding invitation but they were stuck here at our house. i think its the family's habit not to punctual.I hate this kind of people.During the 'merisik' they also came late.Our house was so cramped and there were not even a place for my feet to stand. Just imagine about 50 of them and few from our side..meaning more than 50s were in the house.Too bad the family all together insisted to squeezed in and listen and be the eye witnessed of the event. As for us, we have no time for that, Ikram was so uneasy, was so hot and its time to milk. Tried to on 3 fans at the kitchen.The kitchen was so full with her fiance's family, not to mention in the living room as our house is not a bungalow.But the room was still hot and humid.In the living room was not so bad because we have ceiling fan plus one big 'industry like' fan were on 24 hours.

I dont know what will happen when the wedding time comes .I guess they will bring the whole of the family tree. i hope next time they know how to read the time and manage their time or before that I think I should remind them about this as I am sick of people who cant be punctual.

We were wearing blue including Ikram. I set the theme to be blue but Ajai and his fiance were in pink..goshh pink for girls ok but not man..ohh pleaseeee... so girly.

This article were writen late due to the photos. As we, I mean me and my other sibling were very busy with our duty as host to ensure all food and drinks were replenished, we have not time for photo taking. So we merely based on their side. 3 photographers, like pro photograpers were incharged for the event but until today not a single piece of photo can be seen. Looking at them taking the photo make me sick. Ajai's said one of it was the bro in-law who is a professional photographer. But sorry to say, the act was like an i_d__t.

To Airport Again

On the way to airport

Today Ab will be flying back to KL to sign on. So with all the children, we sent him off and drove back to Mak house. Ab looks so sad to leave Ikram and kissed him thoroughly. I know he will miss Ikram dearly. Ikram was so good compared to last time, I guess last time due to his sleepiness . Just about 5 minutes drove back home, saw the children are all fallen asleep including Ikram. Makes me driving in silentness and trying hard to hold myself from going to pee. Urghh I cant stop anywhere to ease myself. Felt my stomach bloated. The moment I reached to Mak house, I parked the car with the engine still on and I rushed inside to do my business and later came back to see the children. Saw Yaya's holding Ikram. Yes as usual this boy knows when to wake up. The moment the car stop moving he will immediately wake up and started to climb out from the car seat but luckily he was buckled up.

The cousins were still confused and unsure to stay back at Nenek house or follow me back to my house. I know that they wanted to stay longer at mine but their Mom keep calling almost all the time wondering what they were doing by themselves at mine when Im off to work. Scared that their children especially the son playing with fire or fighting with each other etc. The brother and younger sister will follow the sister's decision i.e Yaya. So to makes things easier I sent them off to Mak and Ikram and I went back to our home alone and felt the lonliness once we reached home.Ikram as usual, the moment we reached home he makes such fuss, guess he doesnt like being alone as well.

Airport and the cousins

My Beloved Childrens

Yaya, Nija & Nadia with Ikram

Yesterday we went to the Airport to send AB's off to KL for a short course. When driving back, Ikram cried so loud. i dont know why off late he loves to cry. So manja. Mak said its normal when baby just recovered from any sickness or fever. Can't really concentrate on driving. Yaya tried to comfort and calm him down but failed. I noticed he is so attached to me recently. Even with Ab around, he seems cant see me.Whenever he sees me, he will wants me and offer his hands for me to carry him. Mak said 'sawan kepit' hahah. Hope not. So after struggling and yelling I have to pulled a stop. Carried him and put him on my lap and slowly drive. It was a crazy idea indeed a dangerous one but I have no other choice. Strapped him around me facing my chest with my seats belt and dove slowly home. Luckily almost home. Then we stoped at one of the restaurant to take away for dinner. While waiting for the order, I put Ikram to sleep. He looks so sleepy that's why he fussed around. He slept soundly and I handed him over to Nija and Ikram slept on his lap and I drove slowly to Mak house instead of home to take the childrens clothes and what not. Its school break, all children are gathered at my house playing with Ikram.

KL and 2nd Wedding

New Hat-2nd hat
New shoes-2nd shoes
Drinking bottle/cup

In the Masjid

Busy crawling in the Masjid while waiting for the Nikah to take place

Breakfast at Mamak Restaurant near the Masjid before the Nikah Comfortably sitting like a big boy

Dinner at Ketam Village Steamboat.
Sound asleep at KL home when we just arrived last Thursday

Here we were in KL for 2 days. At our KL home Ikram was so good, no more crying like he used when we were at our SI home when only both of us there, he used to cry alot, but here, I guess due to smaller house he felt so at ease like back to his home. So I guess he consider KL house is our home. Maybe. In KL, I took this opportunity to shop till I drop. Fuhh...what a great day. After 2 months away here I am back to my 'playground', the shopping heaven, The Curve and Ikea, havent much time to go to One U. I missed those places. So all Ikram's preparation for Raya are settled hahaha.

On Saturday we went to another wedding. Ikram's 2nd wedding invitation. I dont want to talk about this wedding as it was the worst ever. The visit to KL was due to this wedding and Tok Wan and Nek Na came along. They were the one who actually wanted, or perhaps insisted to attend the wedding as it was their nephew's wedding. We were just the companion.

All in all, Ikram was a good boy though we were under the bright sunshine and hot weather during the wedding. As for me, I enjoyed the shopping heavenly. The wedding?Urgghhhhh.

To KL

Poor Ikram, suffered from blood sucking pets bug. Noticed he had difficulty in maintaining his posture last night, maybe tried to avoid his left ear. Even myself tried hard not to move or craddle him hard afraid it might hurt him. This morning, noticed him a bit cheerful and there's some improvement, we can touch his left ear. Alhamdulillah hope this is the end of it, end of a traumatic incident. Please, no more bug or any of its kind.

Fever, yes still but not as yesterday, hope by noon all are well. As wee need to head off to KL after work.

Clinic and the bug

Ikram had a minor fever. Yesterday when I fetched him from Kak Nah house, something catched my eyes. Saw black spot in his left ear. Tried to check but he seem refused to let me touch his ear. This morning, I tried again, my intention was to clean his ear cannal as I used to do with cotton bud. Its my habit to clean his ear cannal almost every day to ensure it cleaniness. However this morning I was so surprise to see some black spot which was not due to dirtiness or lack of cleaniness. It was something different.He cried when I touched it. It caught my attention as he used to like the feeling of cotton bud 'playing' in his ears cannal but not today. When sent him over to Kak Nah, asked her to check what happened to his left ear.

In the afternoon, adik called, informing me her colleagues son was admitted in ICU due to hard breathing and few other complications. Doctor suspected either abused or fell down. Internally almost all were damaged including brain. There were traces of blood clog.The mother was so shocked. She told my sister, a week ago she found that her baby which is 3 months old having vomitting sympthom and not feeling very well. She took the baby to the clinic and the Dr prescription was a normal bloathing stomach/upset stomach. Being a firts time mother she took the Dr advise 100% not knowing what was exactly happened until a day before yesterday when the nursery lady called her at the office saying her baby hardly breath. Her husband rushed the baby to the nearest private medical centre to only be stormed by the Dr saying, you want to report or I report to the police. Panicked she asked the Dr what went wrong. Dr suspected the baby been brutally abuse based on the condition. The baby now been pun under ICU with 1% chances. Either live and grow as a cabbage or die. The mother doesnt know what to do and who to blame for. The baby was under the care of either the nursery, her mother in-law and sister for the past one week due to her constant out station duty. She was so sad and traumatic.

Hearing this makes me even more scared. Inside my head all negative things mingling and jumping up and down with Ikram status, knowing that it is school break and many kids will linger at Kak Nah house to play with Ikram, afraid things unexpectedly happen to him by those kids. My sense of suspiscious grew since Kak Nah first daughter came to deliver her baby with her first daughter about 2 years plus a week ago. Until today she has yet to show any sign of labour. So together with Sumo and her sister all are now 3 kids at the house and not including the neighbouring kids who likes to play with Ikram.

So after work, I rushed to Kak Nah house to get Ikram to be checked by the specialist. I saw the black spot again and Kak Nah seems not noticing it untill I showed it to her. When I tried to touch his left ear, Ikram showed a painful sign, more than this morning. This makes me even panic. He tried avoiding his left ear been touch by anybody not even a shirt sleeves. This shows he was having a great pain.

So we went to the nearby paediatrician. The Dr. checked his ear, and smilled to me. He asked me whether or not I have any pets such as dog or cat. I said no and not even the entire family. Then Dr moved aside to get his equipment a very small equipment with his special torch light. When we tried to faced Ikram to the side so the Dr can see clearly through his ear cannal, he cried so loud showing how painful it was. When he had his monthly jap, he didnt even cry but this time he cried his lung out. There were three of us tried to calmed him down so that the Dr can do his job easily. Me holding his hand and body, the nurse hold his head and the Dr do his job. Dr. pulled something from the ear and put on the paper. I saw something like a dust just like I saw this morning. It was not blood, its black in colour, again I had this negative thinking, I wonder was it a pencil carbon? Oh please no. I'm so afraid. Then the Dr tried again pulling out something with Ikram cried so loud and kicking around. He managed to pull something and showed it to me. A tiny black thing with ting legs. The Dr. said its a pets bug. Astagrafilullah. I almost shout as I felt so eerie. I can feel my goose pimples arose. What a disgusting thing. How can this bug showed up in our family. We have no pets and I dont see any pets around Kak Nah house. Must be someone has brough it frome somewhere and transmitted it to Ikram. Told the Dr as well that Ikram used to have his monthly mild fever and Dr. asked me why. I simply said his normal monthly fever and Dr told me that a healthy boy doesnt get fever as often, if it so, there must be reason why. So the Dr advised me to bring Ikram the next round he has his fever to check further the reason of it. And as for this round the Dr said Ikram having fever due to a sorethroat. no wonder he didnt have any epetite for his milk except water.

I'm so relieved and called Kak Midah and adik to report on the news. They were shocked to find what was happened. At almost 11 pm received called from Tok Wan, asking about the bug story. Kak Midah has reported to her about the incident. She (Tok Wan) was the one who told me it must have been other people who brought and transmitted the bug to Ikram knowing that we have no pets and based on her experienced with her daughter when she was young. Gosh this is really scary. It was a bit difficuly to put him to sleep as he need and us need to avoid his left ear. Finally he slept on Ab's arm and we transferred him on bed.

With Cousins During School Break

Yaya, Nija,Nadia, were here during school break. They flewn from KL with their mom for the wedding and stay back with Mak while their mom flewn back to KL by herself. While they were here Ct and Isna came to join the cousins. They played and fight and messed the house till Mak got headache. Pity Mak,so off we 'migrated' them to my house to play with Ikram. With strict rules they stayed at my house. I warned them, whoever disobeyed, or fought with each other will be sent back alone to Nenek house. So atleast they behaved for the time being. When I got home after work the house was terrible. They turned it upside down and I started to go crazy. With stern warning I urged them to clean and tidy the house. Ct and Nija (the only boy) in the group as usual were very lazy but with my fierce looking somehow they took part in the cleaning the mess activity. While Ikram was so happy with their company but ofcourse day time he will be sent off to Kak Nah's as usual.

The Wedding

We went to the Nikah on Friday. The next day is the Wedding day. After Zuhor the groom entourage headed to the bride's house for the wedding reception. There were 7 cars escorted the bride's car. The groom's family was not really took care of the tiny minny things to complement the 'adat'. To sum up, the parents doesnt bothered about any of those thing. Mom and Tok had lectured the parents before, to make sure that we, at least follow traditions or the adat because they are known as 'cincai' people. The groom's car was too plain. Car was not decorated at all not even a tiny flower at the door etc. Ive told the parent to come early, because Mom's house will be the stop over for the wedding ceremony, so that I could check what else need to be taken care or should there need to add on anything there will still time to catch up. But as usual, with their stupid plan, they reached Mom's house almost 7pm and the Nikah will be after sholat, just imagine. Well, i couldnt care less. Not my wedding after all. Before the nikah last Friday, Mom asked me to checked on the groom, I simply ignored becuse too me it's too late to do anything. Go ahead with what you are wearing!! They were amongt those annoying people because the most stubborn and egoist in the family.

At the bride's place, we were greeted by group of kompang boy. Ikram was so stuned and his faced were so confused with the loud kompang but he didnt even cry. I guess he was wondering what was the loud noise. During the 'sanding' on the small dais, Ikram was seen been handed over from one hands to another of the relatives. He was so adorable and didnt even cry for me. I enjoyed myself with the rest of the cousins posing with the newly wedded couple. The event was simple but well organised. The bride family was so friendly. Before we went home, Tok, once again advise the parent to take everything with care especially for the upcoming reception at their house. To take matters seriously as this will not be a small matter especially after what we had from the brides family. Mom also advise the parent again,dont know for how many time. So off they went headed to kampung which took about 4-5 hours to reach.